When you want to date a girl from a different country, you can expect that her take on dating would be partially or totally opposite from your dating experiences in the past and this could pressure anyone, especially if you really like the girl.
Do you have a Chinese girl that you like? Great!
Do you want to impress her? Awesome!
Here are seven ways on how you can impress the Chinese girl you like:
Talk to her in Chinese
Even if you only know a few phrases, any Chinese girl would be impressed if you speak to them in Chinese when you first approach them. But keep in mind that there are several Chinese dialects, but their most used dialects are Mandarin and Cantonese.
To start you off, you can introduce yourself with:
- Nǐ hǎo, wǒ de míngzì jiào màikè. (你好，我的名字叫麦克。) | Hello, my name is Michael.
- Wǒmen néng chéngwéi péngyǒu ma ? (我们能成为朋友吗?) | Can we be friends?
If you’ve established some connection with the Chinese girl you like, you can ask them on a date simply with:
- Nǐ yuànyì hé wǒ yuēhuì ma ? (你愿意和我约会吗？) | Would you like to go out with me?
- Wǒ xiǎng dài nǐ chūqù chīwǎnfàn。(我想带你出去吃晚饭。) | I would like to take you out for dinner.
Also, a little compliment here and there would go a long way. You can say complimentary phrases like:
- Nǐ kànqǐlái zhēnbàng！(你看起来真棒!) | You look great!
- Nàtiān wǎnshang guòde hěnhǎo。(那天晚上过得很好。) | That was a lovely evening.
Even though these phrases are pretty basic and have simple meanings, just the effort you put in into learning their language is already pretty impressive for a Chinese girl.
You can learn more Chinese dating phrases here.
Don’t try too hard to impress
You might be thinking that the one way to impress a Chinese girl is simply to be rich and handsome. But sad to say, most girls don’t require those things to be impressed. What would impress them is just the simple gestures from you. Like being a good listener and conversation maker.
Just be your normal self and be confident. Ask things about herself like her favorite places to go to or what she does for a living. Showing that you’re interested in her will make her be comfortable with you and actually enjoy your date.
Don’t be too prude and upright
Don’t be that kind of person. The one that’s too uptight and shy. If you see that she looks extra pretty today, go ahead and tell her! Show her that you admire her looks and impressed with how beautiful she is.
If that Chinese girl has many suitors, you’d want nothing else but to stand out. But don’t try too hard, you just have to notice the little things and compliment her about it, but it’s important to remember to not overdo it. You don’t want to give her the impression that you’re trying too hard.
Respect her family as well, not just her
If you’re a foreigner, you’d have to understand that in China, their family is more important than anything else. It is a part of the Chinese family culture to be respectful and to love their family. They are taught to follow their parents’ or grandparents’ teachings and wishes.
To boost your chances of building a relationship with her, get to know her family and respect them. Tell them that you’re interested in their daughter and would like to date her. Getting her family’s approval is also a huge bonus for you. She’d be impressed with your effort in getting to know her family and seeking their approval.
Show that you’re interested in her culture
Before you carry on with impressing that Chinese girl, it would be good for you to do some research about her country’s culture first. Especially on her country’s dating culture. You don’t want to offend her on the first date, right?
Another way is you can ask her about the Chinese culture. She would happily share it with you. Chinese girls get excited when you ask them about their culture and traditions. They find it very impressive that you’re very interested in learning her culture.
What really turns Chinese girls off are foreigners acting like they know everything about China. So don’t burn down your chances by being a know-it-all.
Make sure that you plan your date
When your date with the Chinese girl you like, it’s important to plan things based on what she would enjoy. To pull this off, simply ask her about the things that she likes and what she would most likely to do on a date.
But you can also plan something special yourself without asking about her preferences. Though it could be tricky because some girls would prefer lunch dates rather than dinner dates.
No matter what kind of date you planned for her, make sure it’s something unforgettable that she’d definitely want to go on a date with you again.
Tell her straight away that you like her!
It has always been a misconception that Asian women are submissives. Most believe that the reason why they don’t say what they think is that they don’t want to cause conflicts. But we all know that’s just not true, especially for Chinese women.
These women will tell you straight to your face if you did something wrong or even if you have leftover rice on your face and they also expect the same from you.
So if you like a Chinese girl, stop beating around the bush and tell her that you like her already!
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